This live event takes place Thursday, December 4, 7 pm-8 pm EST (4 pm-5 pm PST).
This course introduces therapists to the clinical, ethical, and emotional complexities of working with mixed-agenda couples—where one partner is leaning out of the relationship and the other wants to preserve it. These couples often present for therapy without shared goals, making traditional couples work potentially ineffective or even harmful. The course explores strategies for early assessment, introduces a structured approach to support decision-making, and highlights how to avoid common pitfalls. Participants will leave with a clearer understanding of how to ethically and effectively guide couples in the early stages of treatment.
This live webinar is intended for counselors, marriage and family therapists, psychologists, social workers, and other behavioral health professionals engaged in relational or couples therapy.
The purpose of this course is to provide behavioral health professionals with the knowledge and practical tools to recognize mixed-agenda dynamics early, assess for ethical and clinical fit, and make informed decisions about next steps.
Upon completion of this course, you should be able to:
- Identify clinical signs that a couple may be experiencing mixed-agenda dynamics.
- Describe at least three ethical concerns related to beginning therapy with unclear relational commitment.
- Outline steps for assessing each partner's level of motivation and engagement.
- Compare potential pathways forward, including individual work, couples therapy, and decision-making interventions.
Michal Goldman, LCSW, is a licensed clinical social worker specializing in relational therapy and therapist development. She is passionate about helping clinicians cultivate secure, ethical boundaries and deepen their self-of-therapist awareness to enhance their work with couples. Michal holds extensive training in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and discernment counseling, with a focus on supporting couples through relational challenges. In addition to her clinical work, she writes a biweekly mental health column for a local newspaper, where she shares insights on relational health and ethical practice. Her teaching emphasizes compassionate care, cultural humility, and clinically sound decision-making in complex therapeutic settings.
Contributing faculty, Michal Goldman, LCSW, has disclosed no relevant financial relationship with any product manufacturer or service provider mentioned.
Kimberly Byrd, EdD, PMSW
Scott Deatherage, PhD
The division planners have disclosed no relevant financial relationship with any product manufacturer or service provider mentioned.
Sarah Campbell
The Director of Development and Academic Affairs has disclosed no relevant financial relationship with any product manufacturer or service provider mentioned.
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#9689L: When One Partner Isn't Sure: Assessing and Navigating Mixed-Agenda Couples
Couples therapy often assumes both partners are equally motivated to repair and maintain the relationship. However, many therapists encounter "mixed-agenda" couples—where one partner is leaning out of the relationship while the other is motivated to preserve it. Without appropriate assessment and intervention strategies, therapists may inadvertently proceed with emotionally vulnerable work that can cause harm, rupture trust, or lead to premature dropout. This course will discuss how to identify and treat these couples.
The workbook discussed in this webinar is available here.
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